When I’m Coaching folx, sometimes relationship stuff comes up. It’s important to check in with yourself and ask a couple of questions: 1. Is this mine or my partner’s to take care of? In other words, is the reason I’m upset because I’m expecting my partner to do something I need to be doing for myself? Am I being reasonable in what I’m asking for from my partner? 2. Am I responding to NOW, or to what this reminds me of? Is this a pattern with my partner and myself or an underlying issue that needs to be addressed, and it’s just coming out around this topic? Or is it reminding me of an incident or belief from my past that has nothing to do with what’s happening in this moment? 3. Am I trying to heal a story from my past by repeating an experience similar to what I went through before? I did this and see this often- am I in a relationship where I’m going to repeat the past? (I had abandonment stuff, so I unconsciously hooked up with partners that weren’t that interested in me so I could prove to myself that I could make them stay, or prove to myself “See? I AM unlovable and unworthy.”) Once we take responsibility for ourselves and heal our stuff, the less it gets all over our partner when we disagree. And the more we shift or attract relationships into nourishing and joyful ones where both partners are loving, learning, and growing. #emotionaleatingrecovery #bingeeatingrecovery #relationshiphealth #love #ownyourstuff #changeyourstorychangeyourlife