Date uploaded: 2022-01-04 17:13:58
It just clicked.
April Lexi Lee and Renee Wong have been best friends since they were 12. After supporting each other through the highs and lows of life, school and boyfriends, they took their relationship to the next level by becoming platonic life partners.
"We work so well together. We're such great partners and support each other and love each other so much. We never see each other leaving each other," Lee explains, recounting their train-of-thought.
"So why is this not a stable foundation to start life and start a family and all those things? Why is that not as stable, even more stable, than a traditional, romantic marriage?"
Cyndi Darnell, a certified clinical sexologist, therapist and couple’s counselor, says platonic partnerships can "absolutely" be as successful as a traditional marriage, because "partnership is based on shared values."
Historically, marriage also hasn't been about love, she points out.
"When we think about the origins of marriage, it was never about love. And it was certainly never about romance. It was about asset management."
And while a typical marriage may still work for some, for those who don't find it to be a fit "this revolution is great," Darnell explains, "because it gives us more freedom to reflect on our relationship values and ask ourselves, 'What matters to me? What kind of relationship do I want to be in?' And romantic love, sexual love doesn't have to be part of them."
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